Hi SHE Fam! My niece is 4 with the prettiest curly hair. Her curl pattern is near perfect and her virgin hair curls up beautifully. To maintain my nieces hair, my sister typically uses products from Carol’s Daughter and when my niece isn’t wearing her huge afro, she has her hair braided in ponytails.

Recently I asked my sister would she consider straightening Mikaylah’s hair. She would like to see it straightened, but doesn’t want to take the chance of messing up her curl pattern or my niece thinking that she is supposed to have straight hair all of the time.

I thought to post about this because, I know that she isn’t the only person to ever question rather or not she should consider straightening a toddler’s hair. So below are a few tips and things to consider as it relates to your little beauties hair and how you can safely straighten her hair.

1. Just like adults who wear their hair in its natural state and flat iron once or twice a year, your baby girl can too. Be sure to use products that will protect the hair from heat. I recommend a silicon based product to help absorb the heat and protect from damage. I recommend Pantene Pro-V Stylers Heat Protection Spray. It’s a really good heat protectant that can help coat your baby’s hair before applying heat.

2. Be sure that whoever flat irons your toddler’s hair has deep conditioned it beforehand. The more moisture brought by protein and elasticity the less risk you have when it comes to applying heat. Depending on the hair type, I also recommend flat irons instead of a pressing comb. I know many of us grew up with a pressing comb, however, if your baby’s hair is fine or thin you may risk the hair burning. A ceramic flat iron is a better solution.

3. Determine how you plan to maintain before straightening. The difference between your toddler and an adult is that it may be difficult for her to keep her hair wrapped. Using rollers may annoy the baby but will help keep the hair straight without continuing to apply heat.

Now that we’ve gotten through the tips, I’ll put my own personal spin on how to explain that their curly hair is a part of what makes her so beautiful. Little girls love to swing their hair (just like big girls do, smile) so don’t be surprised if straight hair becomes the flavor of the week. Straightening on special occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, etc., can help your baby girl know that this isn’t the new normal.

It is totally understandable that you want to protect your baby girl’s hair and I agree with my sister that it may not be worth it at this age. However, if you want to give that little beauty some versatility just know that it can be done without damaging her hair.


With sass and class.


We want to hear from you. What’s a good age to straighten your baby girl’s hair? Is there any particular heat protectant you use for a toddler?