Hi SHE Fam! Happy Wednesday! We are often charged to keep it real. We find trendy ways to fuel ourselves up and even say, “we keep 100!” We use this terminology not only when dealing with other people or situations but when it comes to our own lives. Sometimes keeping it real can go wrong and our thoughts can become somewhat negative. This draws the thought-provoking question….are you a realist? or a pessimist?  A realist is someone who sees things as they really are. A pessimist is someone who habitually sees or anticipates the worst.

We never want to consider ourselves a pessimist, however we can all admit times that we didn’t see the positive in something or someone and claimed the worst. This can be true for a potential relationship when meeting a nice man or for feedback from your boss regarding a situation at work. The pessimistic thoughts comes from doubt and fear to be confident. Often times, pessimists are realist that struggle with confidence.

If your gift is to call things how you see them or keep it 100.. it’s important to capitalize off of your gift by leading with positivity. People thrive off of realist and your boldness has the ability to influence others.

We know that great habits must be formed to truly live to our potential. Below are three ways a “realist” can own their character without letting negativity weigh in.

Always have something “positive” to say! Oftentimes realists are known for always having something to say. As a fellow realist, I truly understand. Typically the trait is when you think it….you say it. And whereas, that may not be popular to others, if you always have something positive to say it really does make a difference in how others view you. Be bold, but make sure not to sound bitter.

Who are you keeping it real with? Know your audience. Sometimes keeping it real can go wrong when you don’t know your audience. When people know you they know how to see your bold beautiful qualities in the things that you say and do. On the other hand, when people don’t know you…they may see pessimism instead of real. I find this especially true when using social media. I’ve posted about this before and I’ll say it again….know your audience (see The Different Parts of You).

The day starts and ends with you! At the end of the day, the habits that we pick up and display generate from feelings that we have about ourselves. Most of the time, the realness around others is a direct lash out based on our experiences. There is a way to share your testimony in a positive manner. Be mindful that the “what you see…is what you get” motto is real when it comes to how you feel when you look in the mirror. A realist that feels good about herself has the potential to own her platform.

It’s important to know the difference between a realist and a pessimist. Rather this fits you or not, be mindful of what you say, who you say it to and how what you say relates to you.

From my inspirational corner to yours, have a bless Wednesday!

-Lyssa