This latest big chop of mine has really taught more than I could have ever expected about my natural hair. My perceptions of it all have really changed. Particularly, my perceptions towards my real texture. When I say my real texture, I am talking about my curls with out a gel or styler to make them more defined. I’ve been natural for over 5 years now and I am finally learning what embracing your texture really means.
Before this big chop, I was super obsessed with defining my curls. I would literally not leave the house unless my TWA was freshly washed and styled. I just couldn’t get with the fuzzy undefined curls that I would have without my stylers and gels. I wanted to be able to see individuals coils and curls and my hair had to have that “wet look”. I think this is why I often got frustrated with the TWA phase, I was making it harder than it needed to be.
This time around, I am thoroughly enjoying my TWA and I know that is because I am letting my hair be. I have finally gotten to the point where I can leave my house with my curls out with only a moisturizer in it. I actually love the frizzy way my curls look without any real product in them. No longer do I feel self conscious about it or like I need to throw on a hat to cover my hair. It’s funny because now this all seems so silly to me, (all the fuss I used to make about my curl pattern). For this big chop, I purposefully placed the focus on health. I had finally gotten sick of my bald temples and struggling edges. My hair needed an overhaul.
So with my new focus on health, I’ve found freedom and you know what? My curls have never looked better.
This is by far the healthiest head of hair I have had in a long time. One thing that really held me back in the past from loving my texture was texture envy. I was so caught up in loving everyone else’s curls that I found myself legit wishing my curls resembled theirs. That obviously led me to like my texture less because I was busy wanting it to be something it wasn’t.
Being able to really embrace your texture and love your curls exactly how they are is one of the best parts of the natural hair journey. You have to love those random straight strands, the kinky patch in the back and wavy section in the front. Love it all and that’s when you’ll really start to enjoy your natural hair journey. I think most women hear about the freedom of being natural and then they go natural and feel more boxed in and disappointed than ever, majority of the time, it’s because they’re forcing their hair to be something it’s not. So let’s all take a moment to hug our curls and love each little adorable kink, coil and curl for what it is.
How are you embracing your texture? We want to know.